Why I won’t compete again!
Working in the fitness industry, helping hundreds of women achieve amazing success stories and coaching clients to compete in Sportsmodel competitions, I’m frequently asked if I’m going to compete again.
My answer is “no”.
Now let me explain why, it’s not because I think it’s bad as it can be awesome for women with the right mindset and right motivation, but I have also seen the dark, ugly side of it all and it’s not for me personally.
I’m not going to lie, for years I thought about it and back in 2008 I actually did it and I LOVED IT! I set a goal, worked hard and that day on the stage felt amazing. For a Nervous Nelly like me, walking out with heels way too high for me in a tiny bikini was a HUGE achievement, you couldn’t wipe the smile off my face! I worked bloody hard to get on stage and loved every minute of it! What I didn’t love was the after effect. After seriously depriving myself to get on stage and being all consumed by my food and training, I was left with a seriously screwed up view on what was healthy and normal!
After my moment on stage I started to believe I had to be super lean and buff all the time to make it in this industry. I’d go through periods of restricting myself and go back to chicken and beans to drop some kilos fast. I ended up training too much and it all led to a complete burnout.
For years, I still thought about competing again and even gave competition preparation another couple of goes. I had trainers put me on plans doing 6 cardio and 6 weight sessions a week, no treats at all at 20 weeks out, all with a toddler in tow and trying to work. I pulled out 12 weeks out from the show feeling like a complete failure! Why couldn’t I stick with it, what was wrong with me?
I suppose it was at this point in my life I realised that for me, fitness is a huge part of my life but it’s not my whole life! Spending quality time with family and friends, enjoying a drink and regular treats are just as important to me. I’m not striving to be an athlete but simply fit, healthy and to FEEL AWESOME every day. I soon realized that competing wasn’t going to get me to that place. It just wasn’t for me, although I did struggle to let the idea go. Being in an industry where every girl who won a fitness competition was the ‘next best thing’ and new ‘expert’ in the industry left me feeling like it was something I had to do. I started to think that I had to do it to ever make it in the industry.
I realised this wasn’t the truth, nor was it the real way to “make it”. It’s taken me 40 years to be proud of myself. Whether I’m carrying a bit of extra weight or super lean, I’m still the same person. I’m fit, healthy and really, really good at helping others. To be successful in this industry you need to be TRUE to yourself and genuinely care about helping others. For me, it’s about helping others to BE THE BEST THEY CAN AND TO FEEL AWESOME ABOUT THEMSELVES, regardless of their shape, weight or size!
There is so much pressure out there for women to look a certain way and I realised my message isn’t to make women feel like they need to be a certain shape or size, but instead to feel the best they can possibly feel. I’m here to help women realise it’s NORMAL to include treats, go through periods of carrying a bit of extra weight and to struggle. What we are all working towards is feeling AWESOME IN OUR OWN SKIN, CONFIDENT and PROUD OF WHO WE ARE. This will be different FOR EVERY ONE OF US as we are all unique. So let’s stop comparing ourselves and instead focus on doing what it’s going to take to make you feel amazing. If that means simply moving a bit more and not eating as much sugar then GREAT, if it means setting a huge challenge and competing, awesome. As long as it’s IMPORTANT TO YOU and you go into it with the right mindset then that’s what counts. Just don’t do anything because you think you should!
I still help women compete in Sportsmodel competitions as I believe it’s achievable whilst still enjoying the journey, but before I ever take on anyone I’m pretty big about making sure they are doing it for the right reasons. There are some women born to compete and love every minute of the journey and that’s what it should be about.
I’m a big believer in enjoying the journey, so if you’re hating the process whatever it may be, I don’t believe it’s worth doing.
Remember, we are all unique and the ultimate goal should be to FEEL THE BEST YOU CAN EVERY DAY!!!
Have an awesome weekend.